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What Men Don't Tell Women About Business: Opening Up the Heavily Guarded Alpha Male Playbook | 
| Author: Christopher V. Flett
Publisher: Wiley
Category: Book
List Price: $22.95
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You Save: $11.00 (48%)
Rating:  16 reviews
Sales Rank: 50752
Media: Hardcover
Pages: 192
Number Of Items: 1
Shipping Weight (lbs): 0.8
Dimensions (in): 9.1 x 6.3 x 1
ISBN: 0470145080
Dewey Decimal Number: 650.1082
EAN: 9780470145081
ASIN: 0470145080
Publication Date: October 26, 2007
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Product Description
Discover the deep, dark secrets of the Alpha businessman
As a woman, you know you're every bit as effective and capable as a man is in the arena of business-but that doesn't mean there aren't things you need to know about men and business. In this invaluable guide for the modern businesswoman, former Alpha Male Christopher Flett reveals everything you need to know to understand, communicate, and compete with men in business.
To some extent, business is still a man's world; here's how to play the game by their rules-and win:
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Know what the average Alpha Male is thinking
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Learn 10 things you need to know about men in business
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Force men to take you seriously
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Stop self-sabotage with male colleagues
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Get all the credit you deserve
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Be more confident and effective
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Learn to take charge and lead
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Never make excuses for failures
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Keep secrets-it's vital
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Never bring personal issues to the office
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Gain credibility and trust with Alphas
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Never look for affirmation openly
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Effectively deal with condescending or disrespectful men
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Understand why being "nice" gets you nowhere
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| Customer Reviews: Read 11 more reviews...
Interesting and quick read December 6, 2008
Alida D. Novarese (Memphis, TN United States)
1 out of 1 found this review helpful
Gave me what I was looking for although some of it was a little shocking at first. I appreciated the male perspective of the female in business.
Time to Take a Look at Male Emotionalism October 9, 2008
Tricia Huff (Cincinnati, OH)
I have to tell ya fella's-if you deep six a female colleague over some small criticism of your work performance-you are engaging in emotionalism.
We correctly label sobbing, hissy fits and cutthroat cattiness as emotionalism because they are extreme reactions based upon heightened, and often distorted, emotional perceptions. Curiously, we do not label the stereotypically male traits of aggression, verbal guerilla warfare, or compulsive competitiveness as emotionally based, even though they too are extreme responses with a heavy emotional component that often get in the way of business working smoothly. When I read the behaviors of "alpha males" described by Flett, such as hypersensitivity to criticism and constant status symbol oneupmanship, I begin to wonder why sensitivity and snottiness are considered feminine traits.
Flett is portraying the business world as he sees it, not justifying it, but if you are a woman these guys just look like jerks. Also, he seems to pick the worst examples of feminine workplace behavior, like sniveling and beating a dead horse, stuff that annoys women too.
Something that Flett does not consider is that since about 1920 each generation of American women have grown up and been shaped by vastly different economic and political conditions. I was born in 1969, and as a Gen-X woman, I could not identify with being a shrew, a whore, a bitch or a martyr. (I also failed the beginning chapter's 20 question femininity test designed to ferret out my stereotypically feminine attributes. I not only failed it. I flopped. I responded "no" to every question, therefore, per this test, I have no stereotypical womanly traits. This surprised me since I have a persisting fondness for make-up, shopping and skirts.)
Still, jerks and snivelers aside, this is an interesting read for all women engaged in the business world. The older ones will have validation of what they suspected was the truth behind men's business behavior. And younger women will have insight into not only men's perception of business, but into the behaviors of older women, who are now just as influential to the ambitious careerist. Men in business should read it for the wake up call - "Is this really how I want to act?"
good for someone starting out September 3, 2008
Martha (Canada)
interesting and easy read that can help clear up confusion for a first time job applicant.
 A good book to read for one perspective of business. May 21, 2008
CM (CA)
I actually liked this book. And, as the author states, it's good to start the conversation he refers to. The conversation on women working in business. Maybe after a generation or sooner, women won't even need to adhere to guidelines and advice like those in this book. But it seems they may still have to now to stay in business.
I think the book is best read on a level of understanding and observing higher than someone just entering adult life. That way you can actually get through the whole book without getting angry at the author. The author may disagree since he speaks to 17 and 18 year old females at Junior Achievement events and in addition to wanting to empower, educate, and inspire you(as stated with these words on page 180), at times he wants the book to "piss you off." I'm not sure of the exact reason or process he's hoping by that. But still, if you read the book, try not to get angry is what I would advise.
But at least the book is 182 pages which isn't too long or short. I found it to be just right. I'm a male but still found his point of view and experiences as an "Alpha Male" quite fascinating. The old fashioned Alpha lifestyle is not something I'm into but I'm sure the author would not look down on that since he tries to help females in business now.
Anyways, I gave the book 5 stars. Star ratings on this book shouldn't be based on the reader's opinion or stance on the issue itself and whether or not it's in conflict with the book. I just found the book for what it is as a book to be a 5 star work. For anyone wanting to read further on this topic, I would also suggest looking into the way males and females are brought up from birth to adulthood in the U.S., Canada, and other parts of the world. See the comparison between how the genders are raised, from various points of view, and how it affects areas such as business, politics, general society, family, etc.
This book also provides a bare-bones view of building a network and pulls nothing back on things like credibility and how people keep or drop names from their lists. The idea that the business goal is what keeps people on the list can apply to other areas of life. For example, a mountain climber may keep a network list of people he knows can be relied on in mountain climbs. There isn't so much a business goal, or maybe there is, but the goal there is getting to the top(of the mountain and metaphorically speaking) and surviving. Depending on the seriousness of the project(as in trip, expedition, etc), it may be more about that than just friendship or being nice. I'm sure professionals in this, just like in business, understand this reasoning. So if you aren't too sensitive about this sort of thing, it's just an understanding of how these things run. Nothing personal.
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